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  • Writer's pictureLucie Cullen

6 steps to end your emotional pain

Updated: Sep 12, 2022

I’ve been in pain today, not just a little bit of pain, huge pain. Heart ripping, stomach wrenching pain of the emotional kind. The source of my pain is too private to share here and now, it doesn't involve just me and I owe it to the others involved to protect their privacy, but think about your worst deep emotional pain and you can imagine it. And I wanted to share with you the 6 steps to end your emotional pain, so you know how to move yourself back into bliss, joy and happiness.

1. Feel it.

Dealing with it head on is going to make you move through this process a lot quicker than trying to ignore it and hoping it goes away.

So how do you do this?

Use the 3 A’s Aware, acknowledge and accept. Be aware of the emotions you are feeling, acknowledge that you are in this place and accept that, for now, you are hurting. It may be really bloody painful but feel it, where is it in your body? What is it? What is it saying to you? The more questions you ask and the more answers you have, the more knowledge you have to help with deal with the underlying issues that have contributed to this hurt.

2. Don’t medicate against it

Your natural instinct is to medicate against the pain…DON’T.

Medication? you may ask yourself. Medication can be anything that dulls your emotions, or diverts the pain. The obvious are drink and drugs, but also food (eating or not eating), shopping, self harm (hair chopping, biting fingernails, pulling out eyelashes), or binge watching tv.

But that is not an exhaustive list, think anything that anesthetises your discomfort.


Why not medicate? Medicating leads to emotions being pushed down, and there is long term physical and psychological damage that comes from repressed emotions. Repetitive use of medicating from painful experiences can lead to addictions - ask any drug addict or alcoholic.

3. Find someone to talk to…who will listen

Let me reiterate that again, someone to talk to who will LISTEN.

You are not looking for someone who is in their own pain, to give you all their help and advice (well meaninged it may be, but it will always come with a flavouring of their own experiences).

A kind friend will just hold the space while you speak, not plan revenge Fatal Attraction style, and not feel the need to justify your anger, upset, hurt etc. - all those low vibrational emotions (see previous blog to understand the difference in vibrational emotions

Get it out - talk about it - don’t let it fester

4. Look into the mirror….take your responsibility

Here I’m going to bang on at you again about your responsibility, I’m always talking to my clients about taking responsibility!

You didn’t have any boundaries? Your responsibility.

They didn’t respect your boundaries? Their responsibility.

Remember you are never angry at the other person, you are angry at yourself. So start looking at what I am angry at myself about. This can take a while and is not always evident, but you will get there if you keep questioning, and practice makes perfect.

Whilst working through your responsibility look at the message you are sending to yourself. If it’s far from kind it’s 3D, so move yourself back up. Don’t forget to show yourself compassion, kindness and self love.

5. Stay away from other negative vibrations

We all know that when we feel low, the temptation is to go hunting for evidence of the same emotions - think looking at social media for an angry group or something that you can compare yourself to which matches your mindset, no matter how destructive it is. You may think that this practice will make you feel better. WRONG. It’s going to keep you locked down in your pain.

Remember that your vibration works as a magnet, if you want to experience higher vibrational starts with you. Finding positive vibrations and feeling them is going to move you away from your misery.

6. Know that by doing all of steps above, it won’t last

I bet you've been here before, and you moved on before. Remember this is a place to visit and not to stay.

*As an afternote I am writing this today, and the painful incident was yesterday. By following my advice from above I am in a much better place, back to my happy 5D self.

Lucie x

Thank you for reading my blog. My name is Lucie Cullen and I work with spiritual individuals who are trying to expand their spiritual knowledge and talents, but feel frustrated and unfulfilled and can’t always find the answers.

I help them implement holistic practices in both their work and personal life to increase their happiness, self love and confidence so that they can live their life purpose.

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Aug 03, 2022

If only years ago I had known, believed, and acted on such advice, I could have enjoyed a better life to date. After reading the blog, I sense that I am better prepared for such an event, but better still, am prepared not to ever go there. That's what having a life coach does for you. I couldn't be more pleased with what I have learned and gained. Thank you for your honesty and sharing.

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